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Do Indian Women expect sexual intercourse in the first night of marriage?

Anu - 2007-11-02 03:06:41 - Marriage Divorce

or do they expect a few days afterwards? After how many days are they comfortable with their husband in intimate relationship? I know, it is different for different people...but I just want your opinion...Thanks. In Arrange Marriage


Best Answer:

Well, I wouldn’t obsess with this issue. Just let it flow and do not force her into a violent situation. I reckon that you do not know each other very well yet and that you did not have enough space before marriage to have any privacy and intimacy. So, won’t you agree, that it’s more than violent for a woman to get married to a complete stranger in her eyes and suddenly she is expected to have sex with him without even having had a period of romance, holding hands and sweet kisses?? The only thing I can say is that I would feel violated somehow. People may think that it’s her duty to have sex with her husband during the first night, but I think, that it doesn’t make any harm to go slowly and build an atmosphere of trust and romance between each other in the first place. I do not think, that she does expect sex during the first night, most probably she doesn’t even know what to expect and what to do and I am sure that she is even afraid of it. As I didn’t accept an arranged marriage, I didn’t have to face this ugly problem. If I were you I would try to make her love you first of any sexual intercourse. All the best!!

Answer:

Izetriyen - 2007-11-02 03:10:50
I dont know. but what a compassionate thoughtful question!!

mastermikel49 - 2007-11-02 03:11:16
I don't know but Indian women are so beautiful and so sexy I couldn't wait much past the first minute after marriage!Love those Indian women and if I ever find one thats bi-sexual(woman) I'm going to ask her to marry me! Good luck you lucky devil!

Kydra H - 2007-11-02 03:11:34
A woman's race really has nothing to do with whether or not she expects sex on the first night, but it depends on the circumstances. If it an arranged marriage and she has never met the guy before, it might be uncomfortable to try on the first night together, but in most relationships now-a-days couples are having sex before and during marriage. So I would say it depends on the situation and her overall comfort level. If she is comfortable having sex the first night, great! If not, wait until she is.

rohit k - 2007-11-02 03:14:35
they expect romance only first night, one shuld wait for a 2-3 day period

redfelipe - 2007-11-02 03:14:40
Even if you get a good general answer, it will still be general to all Indian women as a whole. A better approach would probably involve asking one of the bride's female relatives. Not her mom, but perhaps someone of about equal age - like a cousin. If this is not an option, just look into her eyes after the wedding dinner and see for yourself. Verbally or non-verbally, it seems most likely that she will indicate what she expects when the time comes. In other words, perhaps you should just leave this question on the back burner and concentrate on the wedding. Be prepared either way and you won't risk hurting her feelings. If you're the one getting married, Congratulations Good Luck! Redfelipe

osmondkinner - 2007-11-02 03:15:05
Well depends how confortable she is with u. But if u,r not sure then better to wait 3 to 4 days or when u are on yr honeymoon whereby both of can take time to explore. gently. is it an arranged marriage?

Big Mama - 2007-11-02 03:15:08
As you rightly said, it depends from woman to woman. Some are just desperate for sex and nothing can keep them away from it on the first night. Some who are brought up in an orthodox environment, may be terrified of having sex or being intimate with her partner who she hardly knows, but if he is horny and desperate then her upbringing will make her comply to the situation and she will definately not enjoy it. The best thing to do is always talk about it either before the marriage or after it and then go ahead. Use your judgement. Remember this is yur whole life time ahead. Dont mess it up on your first night itself. Take care. All the best.

vijaya s - 2007-11-02 03:15:37
Only in the Ist Night

Anita P - 2007-11-02 03:26:00
Well, I wouldn’t obsess with this issue. Just let it flow and do not force her into a violent situation. I reckon that you do not know each other very well yet and that you did not have enough space before marriage to have any privacy and intimacy. So, won’t you agree, that it’s more than violent for a woman to get married to a complete stranger in her eyes and suddenly she is expected to have sex with him without even having had a period of romance, holding hands and sweet kisses?? The only thing I can say is that I would feel violated somehow. People may think that it’s her duty to have sex with her husband during the first night, but I think, that it doesn’t make any harm to go slowly and build an atmosphere of trust and romance between each other in the first place. I do not think, that she does expect sex during the first night, most probably she doesn’t even know what to expect and what to do and I am sure that she is even afraid of it. As I didn’t accept an arranged marriage, I didn’t have to face this ugly problem. If I were you I would try to make her love you first of any sexual intercourse. All the best!!

MENNU D - 2007-11-02 03:35:52
It depends where were you born. If you are born in India and married an Indian man then YES women expect sexual intercourse the first night and you never feel comfortable in intimate relationship. Children comes and the real love relationship never comes. Indian women shows outside, how happy they are at home but inside they are miserable at home. Only 1% women are happy with their sex/relationship life. However, indian women pretend they love their husband. But unluckily, divorce is not acceptable in indian society and cultrue. You marry and live with it...even if it sucks...

chennaideva - 2007-11-02 04:44:14
Good point 'Mennu D', it is a fact with most of the marriages in India. Only few has the courage of staying single or breaking the relationship which are not working. The fear of 'society' is more than the dream of life. For the question, sex in first night is happening almost in all the marriage (except if the guy is not able to handle the lady).

doctorlickie_69 - 2007-11-02 05:15:07
No, you may not have intercourse for the first week, but you can eat at the y. What could be better..Yum Yum. Take doctorlickie's advise and lickie lickie.

dhana s - 2007-11-02 06:34:24
you don't ask us. Just ask your future wife.

genniangel0 - 2007-11-02 10:03:48
Well...the first thing you need to know is that this is going to be your wife....if you expect your relationship to last...then you need to have better communication with her. Ask her how she feels about sex with you. How do you feel about having sex with her? Are you comfortable having sex with a woman that you don't know? Where you live will probably have a lot to do with how you both feel. Just keep your communication open with each other and become friends. If you want a happy marriage...start dating her....build communication with her...it is the key to a good marriage. Good Luck.

cutiepie - 2007-11-03 22:40:07
dont rush into things....wait for her to get tht involved also....depends how comfortable she is with u....give her time if shez not willing to....




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